Quotes for the Journey

Sometimes a good quote can help us along life’s path. Here are a few nuggets of EFT wisdom to support you and your loved ones on the journey!

“The cycle is the bad guy. Neither partner is the bad guy.”
— Dr. Sue Johnson, Therapist, Educator, Researcher, Creator of EFT
“Get out of the cycle before you get out of the relationship.”
— Unknown EFT Sage
“Unprocessed fear moves under the surface and tweaks behavior. Unprocessed pain moves under the surface and tweaks behavior.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Unprocessed pain limits life options.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Where are the pockets of pain? Find the pockets of pain.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Isolation is inherently traumatizing to the human brain.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Emotion is the music of the dance.”
— Dr. Sue Johson, Therapist, Educator, Researcher, Creator of EFT
“Every emotion has a story.”
— Alison Lee, co-founder of the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute with Sue Johnson from which ICEEFT evolved
“If we filter out some emotions, we also filter out some of the love.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“It’s hard to bond in secondary. Primary is where the Velcro happens. ”
— Jen Olden, EFT Supervisor and Therapist (EFT Cafe)
“Our brains were made to load-share. ”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Awareness is the first step to change.”
— Dr. Elisa Joy Seibert, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist
“Awareness brings agency.”
— Dr. T. Leanne Campbell, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Naming is containing.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“If we can name it, we can unhook from it.”
— Dr. Elisa Joy Seibert, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist
“What’s shareable is bearable.”
— Gail Palmer, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Load share. Co-regulate.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Shift from coping individually to coping relationally.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Cycles speed things up. We need to slow it down.”
— Unknown EFT sage
“Give yourself some grace space.”
— Dr. Elisa Joy Seibert, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist
“Tense and fast, connection can’t last. Calm and slow, connect and grow.”
— Karen Shore, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist
“Keep it real. Keep it safe.”
— Dr. Jim Furrow, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist
“Safety first.”
— Dr. Elisa Joy Seibert, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist
“Share from below the chin.”
— Anonymous EFT Trainer
“Lead with your need. Set up a clear target right up front so you partner knows how to hit the target and be effective with you. ”
— Dr. Elisa Joy Seibert, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Therapist
“We ignore our fear, and we put ourselves in peril. Unprocessed fear tweaks behavior, unprocessed fear makes us rigid, unprocessed fear limits our emotional range. Fear changes us, hardens our hearts, puts a veil or a wedge between us and our loved ones. Don’t get in the habit of ignoring your fear, because that will cost you something sooner or later.”
— Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, Therapist

More Relationship Quotes … from the Non-EFT World:

“As a culture, we could improve our national happiness levels by making sure people focus most on what is primary — marriage and intimate relationships — and not on what is important but secondary — their careers.”
— David Brooks, New York Times, 8/17/23
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
— Anais Nin
“Real love accepts people as they are … with room for who they may become.””
— Susan Cottrell, speaker, activist, mom of a lesbian daughter